Wow. Things have changed since my last update. Last time I made a post I was talking about how perfect my arrangement is with my husband and how I couldn’t be happier. Well, it turns out that this was completely one-sided and my husband is actually unhappy. One of his friends approached me to let me know that my husband has been feeling this way for a long time now but has been too scared to tell me because he loves me too much. I’m in shock.
Apparently, he thinks that I’m trying to get rid of him by turning up the central heating. Sydney is not a warm place! Anyone that says otherwise is completely wrong. I want to be with him, I just can’t be in a place where I’m cold. He also doesn’t like watching the same TV shows as me, so I thought it made sense not to be in the same room all the time. One of us would always be uncomfortable, but this way we can stay in a relationship and enjoy doing what we want.
Frankly, I’m dumbfounded that my husband feels like this and has never tried to tell me. I’m not a mind reader. I thought we were both happy. I thought he liked being able to control his own heating system. Apparently, I really worried him when I suggested that we get ducted heating repairs. Sydney isn’t going to get any hotter for a few months. According to his friend, my husband was worried that I wanted to ‘smoke him out’ and make it so that he had to leave, rather than me asking him to leave. That was certainly not the case.
When my husband gets home from work I’m going to sit him down and tell him that I love him. I’m going to tell him that my independence is not going to hurt our relationship if he doesn’t let it and that I won’t get ducted heating. I’m not sure what we’re going to do about me needing more heat than he does, but maybe he’ll have some ideas.